Why, Yes, Actually

I am completely and totally aware of how gobsmackingly lucky I was to meet and marry this person. Thanks for asking. Mind you, I don’t wait until Valentine’s Day to let her know that I know how fortunate I am. Every day is a good day to let those you love know you love them. Not that Valentine’s Day isn’t fun and all. It is. But in terms of letting my wife know how much I love and admire her, it’s just another day around here. I think this is a good way to do things.

So, let those you love know you love them today. And do it again tomorrow. And the next day. And the next. And so on. This is one time where repetition doesn’t get old. Trust me on this one.

27 thoughts on “Why, Yes, Actually

  1. In our early days, I introduced the love of my life to “Facta, non verba.” (“Deeds, not words.”) From fixing her computer to changing out a roll of paper towels, there is thus never a day when I can’t say “I love you” to her in ways both large and small.

    Yes, repetition doesn’t get old.

    Have a Happy Valentine’s day.

  2. O Tedious Scalzi, do you realize that if you were fishing for compliments you would have done much better by making sure the Beauteous Ghlaghghee was in the picture.

    Preferably by replacing you.

    The Official Ghlaghghee Fan Club

  3. The Gorgeous Fiancee and I have decided that, since we blew all day Thursday running around and jumping through hoops to finally get our marriage license, today would be a perfect day to just go ahead and get married.

    So that’s what we’re doing. At 6pm PST. :)

    (Our previously planned wedding date – short-circuited by my unexpected unemployment – was 9/12, which would be our fourth anniversary of becoming a relationship. We picked it because that would be easy to remember. Today will also be quite easy to remember.)

    (Our biggest regret: we won’t be having the In’N’Out truck to feed our guests. Fortunately the guests will be few, so we’ll just all go to INO after for dinner.)

  4. I’ll say it again: you and I got absurdly lucky that Krissy and Chrissie (respectively) fell in love with us, and escalated to marriage. Almost makes one believe in reincarnation, and that we did something amazing in the previous life to deserve being with people prettier and smarter than we are.

    Today is our 23rd wedding anniversary. Date chosen to be sure that I’d never forget…

    Guy wanted to never forget his wedding anniversary, so he paid his personal assistant to always send roses to his wife then. Went fine until one day he came home and asked: “Nice flowers. Who sent them?”

  5. Jeff Zugale @8: You’ve got better timing than I do. We got the marriage license on the 14th, because we didn’t know about the 48-hour waiting period. Had to wait ’til the 16th to do the actual getting-married part. Oh well, she was just as fantastic the two days later.

  6. From someone coming up on 34 years of marriage, I have to agree that there is no day, not moment, that you should take your wonderful fortune for granted. You’re absolutely right, it’s a good way to do things.

  7. And yes, for every day you feel love – give thanks by giving love. And if you don’t feel love of a day – assume it’s an off day and give love anyway. Surprise her. Every day you live, you have a chance to say “I love you” in a new and different way. Use it. Revel in it. Bask in it. Really… what’s to lose by making life better for the ones(s) you love?

  8. Lucky? Oh my yes, I’m lucky! 28 years and my love can still surprise me. I got home from work Wednesday evening and she said “Don’t get to comfortable cause I want to go out.” This usually means there is some shopping or other errands that need to be done.

    So we hop in the car, I pull out on the street and ask “where are we going?” She says “You know how I hate crowds so we’re going out for dinner tonight instead of Saturday.” To which I replied, “Brilliant, I love you too.”

    We had a lovely evening together with desserts and coffee at the end, blew off the diets and everything.

    Do I deserve this? Probably not, but I’m glad she thinks I’m worth the effort.

    Happy Valentine’s Day to all you “Whatever” friends.

  9. JVP – snap!

    Yesterday was our 23rd anniversary as well – yay, you!

    John, you’ve got the right approach – show love each day (as far as possible), and try never to take your partner for granted.

    I hope (and believe) you and Chrissy have many, many years of happiness ahead of you.

  10. Good to see you are following the traditional canon of Science fiction writeres marrying spanking hot wives.

    Here’s to the day I can marry my love of 4 years. in the US, I mean

  11. Actually, John, I knew exactly how you felt about your wife when I read OMW. It struck me that the author had to have a lot of experience with great love in order to create a character that was so incredibly in love with his wife that he missed her deeply when she was gone.

    Here’s hoping 2009 brings love to those who are single!

  12. The 14th is my parents’ anniversary; yesterday was their 35th (and also my grandmother’s birthday). Our family doesn’t celebrate holidays or birthdays, but my parents’ anniversary has always been a family celebration, at least for them and my sister and me. I have to say that there aren’t many family groups in restaurants on Valentine’s Day… but the humor of that is about all there is to say that’s positive about the restaurant experiences, because the prices about triple. :P I’ve had many an occasion, especially now that I’m a grown-up and often the one taking them out to dinner, to growl that they should have thought ahead when they got married. Which is actually a valid criticism in their case because it was pure coincidence that they got married on Feb 14 — it was just the day Dad had off work. And then after the wedding he went to work anyway, taking Mom with him.

    My husband was out of town for our first wedding anniversary, too. But we don’t see a reason to only remark on how happy we are to be together once a year. :)

  13. I have always loved Valentine’s Day. It’s a great excuse to make public displays of affection without being shunned. Even when I was alone, I loved seeing people in love and happy.

    Last night was the best Valentine’s ever. My wonderful man proposed, and I said an ecstatic “Yes!” I’m incredibly lucky to have finally found the love of my life and to know that he loves me so deeply. I look forward to making sure he remembers how much I love him every day for the rest of my life. Oh, good googly moogly, I’m going to cry again, now. :D

  14. Good thoughts, JS. In a certain sense, every day for me is Valentine’s Day because I too look at my spouse and shake my head wondering a) why she was crazy enough to marry me and b) how in the hell I’ve managed to keep her interested for 15 years. This woman is beautiful enough thats he could have had any man she wanted. In fact, she had several guys falling all over themselves for her when she strode up in 1992 and grabbed me by the lapels and said, “Hey, let’s be together!”

    I make a lot of stupid decisions, but this one decision I made — to take the plunge and marry my wife — ranks as the #1 best decision I have ever made. Ever.

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