Fourteen Years of Married Bliss, Now With Extra Added Cat!

Today marks the occasion of my fourteenth wedding anniversary, and I have things to do today before I do the official anniversary date night celebration, so this is all you get out of me here today. But to make up for the absence, here’s a picture of Ghlaghghee, posed artfully before my and Krissy’s official wedding photo. Because we all know so many of you just show up for the cat pictures anyway.

If you are married (or would be save for those annoying legal niceties), be sure to give your spouse an extra kiss and let him or her know you love them. That would be a lovely gift for you to give to me and Krissy. Also, pet your cat or cat equivalent. Ghlaghghee would appreciate that, I’m sure.

See you tomorrow.

80 thoughts on “Fourteen Years of Married Bliss, Now With Extra Added Cat!

  1. John, I know just how you feel. Today is my 14th wedding anniversary as well. My husband and I feel truly blessed to have found each other.

    Happy Anniversary!

  2. I would like to know who misplaced Debra and her husband. Please people… Put them back where they belong when you are done not where you found them…

  3. Congratulations to you and Krissy, and may the next fourteen be even more awesome than the first.

  4. @ 1 – that was my first response too, amusingly.

    “John Scalzi posts about his 14th anniversary. Blog commenters immediately proclaim their undying love for him.”

    That’s funny.

  5. Wow, I turned 40 last week and had my 14th wedding anniversary in April.

    Does that make me …

    Anti-Scalzi?
    Counter-Scalzi?
    Inverse-Scalzi?

    Anyway … weird.

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!

  6. Husband and I celebrated our 15th anniversary last December with a contact session with a white tiger, so felines and wedded bliss clearly go together.

    Congrats to you both for finding each other.

  7. Congrats to both you and Krissy!

    It takes a manly-man to be as open and honest about your love and respect for your wife as you are, and sharing your feelings here on Whatever is a gift and blessing to your readers.

    (This is from someone who’s 20+ year relationship is ending. I’m happy to see others making it and going strong – it gives me hope for my future!)

  8. Husband-to-be has been hugged and kissed and told I love him. There you go. Happy anniversary!

  9. Husband and I found out we were pregnant on our 3rd anniversary about a month ago. I’m now well into my morning sickness days and feeling like complete and utter shit, thanks for asking. And since this is Mr. Scalzi’s page, I’ll go ahead and say it: I have never wanted bacon so much in my life. It’s the only food I can think about without puking.

  10. Happy anniversary! May you have many more years of happiness ahead of you.

    Jonathan has been hugged and kissed and informed of my love for him (this probably would have happened anyway, but I did tell him I was following your orders.)

    We celebrated our 18th anniversary this past March (it fell on a minor Jewish holiday – one that encourages drinking and partying – so we sponsored a spread in our synagogue and I got him a ritual drinking cup.)

  11. Grats! Hope you have an excellent day (and many more, of course), and I will gladly comply with your request by bestowing kisses upon my Lady.

  12. I’m sure Chang not Chang will point out that the headline should actually have been something like “Her Glorious Radiance, with some boring human picture in the background.”

    Like the depth of field, though.

  13. Best deal ever, isn’t it? We’re coming up on 14 this Christmas season. I don’t know what I did to deserve this, but I intend to keep doing it and hope nobody catches on.

    Will provide extra hugs to household in your (plural) honor.

  14. JS – good for you two!!! It takes a lot of work to make it work. My 30 year mark comes up next month. By the way – my 2 Silver Labs, Hootie & Hannah, want to meet Ghlaghghee!

  15. Congratulations — my fourth is coming up soon. I certainly hope in ten years we’re still as happy as you seem to be!

  16. Congrats! I will give my wife an extra smoochie tonight in honor of your anniversary. (Like I need an excuse…) Depending on how you count it, we’ve been married for 12 gay years, or 1 California year.

  17. My favorite love poem in honor of your anniversary!

    e.e.cummings
    i carry your heart with me(i carry it in

    i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
    my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
    i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
    by only me is your doing, my darling)
    ………………………………………………………………..i fear
    no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
    no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
    and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
    and whatever a sun will always sing is you

    here is the deepest secret nobody knows
    (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
    and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
    higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
    and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

    i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

    (The lack of capitalization is Cummings’, not mine. And the “……i fear” is for proper spacing)

  18. Two of my closest friends from college celebrated their 0th wedding anniversary this last Sunday. Here’s hoping both you and they thoroughly enjoy the next fourteen years.

  19. Every. year. Every freaking year I think: “Hey, he’s talking about his anniversary the day after I had mine!!”. Next year I hope to be a little quicker than this. Happy Anniversary!

  20. Congratulations!

    I will dutifully let the wife know she’s still in the club. I knew there was a reason I was giving extra special iTunes support to her today.

  21. 1) Awesomesauce, John. Huzzah for fourteen years!

    2) I’m seconding DG Lewis @ 20’s appreciation for the depth of field. For a brief second, it appeared in my mind like Ghlaghghee was actually at the wedding and that the photographer took a very low angle shot of you two with her in the foreground.

  22. O Great Scalzi, what a superb picture of Her Most Glorious Shimmering Radiant Perfection, the Beauteous Ghlaghghee.

    Criminally long overdue, naturally. But considering the poor raw material She has to work with, the Executive Committee of The Official Ghlaghghee Fan Club stands in awe of the degree of improvement Magnificent She has made in you.

    While an excellent picture there are of course some suggestions the Executive Committee would like to offer:

    1. Unbearably Perfect She should be more centered in the frame.
    2. Her Radiance has caused your camera to shorten the exposure a bit too much and the image is too dark. You need to compensate for this.
    3. In a strange turn of events, depth of field is actually excessive. This leads to irrelevant distractions appearing incorrectly in focus. More specifically, there appears to be an image of a pervert pawing or in other ways molesting one of Her Angelic Minions just above Her. You could have avoided this by correct centering.

    The Official Ghlaghghee Fan Club

  23. Happy Anniversary!

    J and I are coming up on our 8th later this summer.

    I’m at work right now but as soon as I get home J will get kisses and all three cats will be snuggled.

    PS. We’re headed to California tomorrow. I’ll give In ‘N Out your love.

  24. Congratulations!!! My husband and I are working through year 32 (a pretty good one so far). Fluffy and Twilight thank you for thinking of them.

  25. Congrats, John and Krissy!

    David A.W. @28: I read that poem to my wife at our wedding. It is my favorite cummings poem, and I agree: Best. Love. Poem. Ever.

    Reading it again gave me chills. In a good way.

    If you haven’t heard it, Michael Hedges set this poem to music on his album Taproot. I don’t usually go for New Age-y music – and though he was an incredibly gifted and inventive guitarist, Hedges did tend to record for that genre – but damn if it’s not one of the most beautiful love songs ever.

  26. > If you are married (or would be save for those annoying legal niceties), be sure to give your spouse an extra kiss and let him or her know you love them.

    We did, actually — yesterday was our 9th anniversary. :) So… one day ahead. And five years behind. Or something.

    All the best, you guys.

  27. Congrats, John. Tomorrow is the first wedding anniversary for me and Nita.

    Now quit stealing my blog posts within a week of them posting. =)

  28. my dear doggy is salivating at the sight of the cat – down boy…
    14 years is almost a lifetime – one that me and my hubby have also just celebrated in January.

  29. Congrats Mr and Mrs Scalzi! My Better Half (who really is) and I will be celebrating out 14th anniversary come August, and I’m pleasantly surprised we’ve resisted the temptation to throttle each other.

  30. I’ve been married now for (checks watch) 11 days so I’m still at the say-I-Love-You-reflexively stage of things and we have three cats (I brought two to the picture, she brought one) which require constant petting and fussing over, so I think I’m doing pretty well here.

  31. Congratulations! I kissed the cat and gave the husband a nice pat on the head… wait. What? Damn. I did it wrong AGAIN?

    Sigh.

  32. Happy Anniversary! My spouse and I celebrated our 19th yesterday but I will hasten to smother him with more appreciation and affection as my gift to you. Had to move the cat off my laptop but will make it up to her.

  33. Yeah, I can just see that:

    Me: (Kisses wife) “That’s from Scalzi.”

    She: (suspiciously) “Why were you kissing Scalzi?”

  34. Congratulations! Will be nine years for me and my wife in September. As they said in “The Untouchables,” it’s good being married.

  35. Congrats to you both! We just celebrated our 2nd anniversary at the end of March. Looking forward to many years yet to come with her and our cats.

  36. No spouse, no cats, so I’ll just content myself with a “Congratulations, John and Krissy.”

  37. Spouse duly (and happily) kissed – may you have a wonderful anniversary and many, many more.

  38. Happy Anniversay!

    Many years of health and happiness.

    Looks like your wedding photo was taken somewhere like the WONDER SPOT or gravity vortex of the Wisconsin Dells. I never went there, but remember looking at the brochures or ads. That or hurricane force winds with damn good hairspray?

  39. Congrats and happy anniversary! (we’re coming up on 21 years this October) … this is also our oldest son’s 19th birthday, so a great day in many ways :)

  40. Congratulations to you both, (but especially to Krissy for being able to live with a writer.)

    I’ve been happily not married to the same woman for the lst 15 years and I have to say it’s a lot more fun than being young and single.
    -and a lot less wear and tear on the liver.

  41. I was going to say that I kissed my husband while petting my cat equivalent, and then I realized that sounded really inappropriate. (Even though I meant it COMPLETELY INNOCENTLY, I swear.) So I’ll just say happy anniversary instead. Happy anniversary!

  42. Happy Anniversary. (And I must say, that after following the unspellable cat’s Twitter feed, that I find his sense of humor to be suspiciously like yours, John.)

  43. Congrats, John! Great timing–14 years ago next week, I proposed to my other half (the night before, or was it after, my brother’s wedding). We started dating 14.5 years ago. And…

    or would be save for those annoying legal niceties

    …tomorrow, we’re going to Connecticut for cake tasting, to meet a florist, etc. On our 15th anniversary (!!!) this fall, we’re getting legally married. Amazing to finally be able to make good on that proposal. Yay, Connecticut! :-)

    So, um, yeah…love your post and the responses. I will kiss him in the morning for you and Krissy (he’s asleep now, or should be).

    P.S. I love your wedding shrine. :-)

  44. J: Er, 14, eh!? Can’t believe we made it . . .
    K: 14? Have you stopped taking your meds again?
    J: Er, meds?
    K: The little blue pills that help you . . . think.
    J: I only like the red pills.
    K. But you’re polar dyslexic—
    J: Huh?
    K: Take the blue pills are you’ll . . . see. We’ve been married for 41 years. You’ve won nineteen Hugos for heaven’s sake. You only had ONE on our fourteenth.
    J: Ninety-one Hugos!? But how? I’m only 40 . . .
    K: Just take your meds.

  45. Congratulations! That’s not easy, in this culture.

    (Spice & I just finished our 36th year together, the last 11 of which we’ve been married. It doesn’t seem nearly that long.)

  46. Been married 25 years to the same woman, and thirteen to another, to learn how not to do it. (Appprenticeship? Slavery? indentured servitude? I don’t know, but I was glad when it was over.)

    A man’s 22nd anniversary arrived suddenly and without notice, as men’s anniversaries so often do, and he bought his wife 20 roses by way of celebration. His wife was both pleased and puzzled, “why 20, and not 22?”, she asked. He quickly replied, “oh, I was counting only the HAPPY years!” His wife smiled a bit distractedly, then promptly disposed of 13 of the roses, placed the remaining seven in a vase.

    Remember, never explain your reasoning. If she agrees with it, it may be more embarrassing than otherwise, and if she disagrees, it may incite violence.

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