Peter Dubuque

Spare a moment in your day, if you would, for my friend Peter Dubuque, who passed on quite suddenly earlier this week. Peter and I met more than a dozen years ago when we were both part of the alt.society.gen-x newsgroup on USENET, which was my first real community online, and through which I gained friends I still have today. Peter was a year younger than I am, so his passing is unexpected, and a reminder that one’s time is what it is, and so to make the most of it. Peter certainly did that; the world was a better place for having him in it, and a lesser place now that he is gone. I wish him peace, comfort for his husband Steve, and a place in memory for all those who knew him.

30 Comments on “Peter Dubuque”

  1. That’s a terrible shock. My condolences.

    I’d say more but I always wind up sounding like a Hallmark card. So I’ll stop here.

  2. I’m so very sorry. My to his husband and family and to you on the loss of your friend. Godspeed to him.

  3. Thanks for posting that obit Roxanne. Loved the picture of him hugging the tree :-)

    My thoughts are with you John.

  4. Christian, et al:

    Thanks, I’m fine, although a bit sad. But if you would turn your thoughts toward Steve and the rest of Peter’s family, that would be excellent.

  5. My sympathy to his husband and family, and to you and all his friends. It’s always wrenching when someone you love dies, and worse when they die so young.

    This has been a season of grief. I know way too many people who’ve lost close friends and relatives.

    Hug your Someone Specials today, and tell them you love them. You can never do that too often.

  6. I can’t imagine the loss of the love of one’s life at such a young age, and my thoughts are with Steve and the rest of Peter’s family. My condolences.

  7. My sympathies to all who knew him and especially his loved ones. That’s still young in my book and quite a shock.

  8. I’m very sorry for your loss and the loss to his family. I’ll send some positive thoughts their way.

  9. Condolences, and best wishes to his husband and family in this difficult time.

  10. I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and condolences to his husband, and to all others who loved him.

  11. Sorry for your loss and his husband’s. I must say, I saw the photo and initially thought, “I’m going to like this post.” I’m a sucker for outdoor photos. Of course, what you see doesn’t always become reality. I hope that was just a long list of accomplishment photos for him.

  12. Shit. Not cool, universe. My condolences to you and the rest of his friends and family.

  13. I had no idea you knew Peter also. Six degrees of separation and all that.

    The visitation today was sad but sweet, with many remembrances of Peter, his love of the outdoors & snowboarding, his intelligence and his sense of humor. To say he was well loved is an incredible understatement.

    Take care John. See you at Readercon.

  14. John: Thank you so much for this post. Your thoughts and support at this time, and by extension the thoughts and support of everyone reading it, means so much to me, and I know Peter would have been truly appreciative. I am grateful for your friendship, and I know Peter was, too. And to all responded, thank you as well.

  15. I’m very sorry to read about Peter’s passing. I wouldn’t say that I knew him, but I did participate for a short time in alt.society.gen-x in the late 90s and I remember him well, as well as Steve.

    Steve, please accept my deepest condolences. My thoughts are with you and all of Peter’s family and friends.

    — Carol Elaine (formerly Francaise of alt.society.gen-x)

  16. My deepest condolences to you, Steve, and to all the affected families. I got to know Peter and Steve through the early years of a.s.g-x in the mid-1990s, and my wife and I were fortunate enough to make their personal acquaintance and stay with them during a trip into the Boston area a few years ago. I just wish the neighbors who were playing that loud garage-band music until 3 AM that night weren’t so crappy.

    My heart truly aches on for Peter’s family, for Steve and his family, and for all who mourn this loss. A friend and a cultural piece of my young adulthood has left us.

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