Fourteen Years of Married Bliss, Now With Extra Added Cat!

Today marks the occasion of my fourteenth wedding anniversary, and I have things to do today before I do the official anniversary date night celebration, so this is all you get out of me here today. But to make up for the absence, here’s a picture of Ghlaghghee, posed artfully before my and Krissy’s official wedding photo. Because we all know so many of you just show up for the cat pictures anyway.

If you are married (or would be save for those annoying legal niceties), be sure to give your spouse an extra kiss and let him or her know you love them. That would be a lovely gift for you to give to me and Krissy. Also, pet your cat or cat equivalent. Ghlaghghee would appreciate that, I’m sure.

See you tomorrow.

80 Comments on “Fourteen Years of Married Bliss, Now With Extra Added Cat!”

  1. John, I know just how you feel. Today is my 14th wedding anniversary as well. My husband and I feel truly blessed to have found each other.

    Happy Anniversary!

  2. I would like to know who misplaced Debra and her husband. Please people… Put them back where they belong when you are done not where you found them…

  3. Congratulations to you and Krissy, and may the next fourteen be even more awesome than the first.

  4. @ 1 – that was my first response too, amusingly.

    “John Scalzi posts about his 14th anniversary. Blog commenters immediately proclaim their undying love for him.”

    That’s funny.

  5. Wow, I turned 40 last week and had my 14th wedding anniversary in April.

    Does that make me …

    Anti-Scalzi?
    Counter-Scalzi?
    Inverse-Scalzi?

    Anyway … weird.

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!

  6. Husband and I celebrated our 15th anniversary last December with a contact session with a white tiger, so felines and wedded bliss clearly go together.

    Congrats to you both for finding each other.

  7. Congrats to both you and Krissy!

    It takes a manly-man to be as open and honest about your love and respect for your wife as you are, and sharing your feelings here on Whatever is a gift and blessing to your readers.

    (This is from someone who’s 20+ year relationship is ending. I’m happy to see others making it and going strong – it gives me hope for my future!)

  8. Husband and I found out we were pregnant on our 3rd anniversary about a month ago. I’m now well into my morning sickness days and feeling like complete and utter shit, thanks for asking. And since this is Mr. Scalzi’s page, I’ll go ahead and say it: I have never wanted bacon so much in my life. It’s the only food I can think about without puking.

  9. mamadeb – I'm a devoted fan of Adam Lambert, but also of cooking, knitting, science fiction and pretty anything pop culture. I'm @_mamadeb on Twitter.
    mamadeb

    Happy anniversary! May you have many more years of happiness ahead of you.

    Jonathan has been hugged and kissed and informed of my love for him (this probably would have happened anyway, but I did tell him I was following your orders.)

    We celebrated our 18th anniversary this past March (it fell on a minor Jewish holiday – one that encourages drinking and partying – so we sponsored a spread in our synagogue and I got him a ritual drinking cup.)

  10. Congratulations and count me as another “Same Date, same number of years” as you and Chrissy.

    Well done Sir and Madame, well done!

  11. Grats! Hope you have an excellent day (and many more, of course), and I will gladly comply with your request by bestowing kisses upon my Lady.

  12. I’m sure Chang not Chang will point out that the headline should actually have been something like “Her Glorious Radiance, with some boring human picture in the background.”

    Like the depth of field, though.

  13. Best deal ever, isn’t it? We’re coming up on 14 this Christmas season. I don’t know what I did to deserve this, but I intend to keep doing it and hope nobody catches on.

    Will provide extra hugs to household in your (plural) honor.

  14. JS – good for you two!!! It takes a lot of work to make it work. My 30 year mark comes up next month. By the way – my 2 Silver Labs, Hootie & Hannah, want to meet Ghlaghghee!

  15. Congratulations — my fourth is coming up soon. I certainly hope in ten years we’re still as happy as you seem to be!

  16. Congrats! I will give my wife an extra smoochie tonight in honor of your anniversary. (Like I need an excuse…) Depending on how you count it, we’ve been married for 12 gay years, or 1 California year.

  17. Happy Anniversary, Krissy and John. As you say, you married up. Don’t forget to do something to remind Krissy why she settled for you.

  18. My favorite love poem in honor of your anniversary!

    e.e.cummings
    i carry your heart with me(i carry it in

    i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
    my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
    i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
    by only me is your doing, my darling)
    ………………………………………………………………..i fear
    no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
    no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
    and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
    and whatever a sun will always sing is you

    here is the deepest secret nobody knows
    (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
    and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
    higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
    and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

    i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

    (The lack of capitalization is Cummings’, not mine. And the “……i fear” is for proper spacing)

  19. Two of my closest friends from college celebrated their 0th wedding anniversary this last Sunday. Here’s hoping both you and they thoroughly enjoy the next fourteen years.

  20. Every. year. Every freaking year I think: “Hey, he’s talking about his anniversary the day after I had mine!!”. Next year I hope to be a little quicker than this. Happy Anniversary!

  21. changterhune – Before you hear lies from Chang Terhune himself, we thought we’d tell you the truth: without us, his old action figures, he’d be nowhere. He loved science fiction from way back and began reading it at an early age, but it was through us that he acted it all out. That’s what led to the writing. He watched a lot of science fiction shows like Star Trek, U.F.O, and movies, too. But we were always there to do his bidding. And it’s like they say: you always forget about the little people on your way up. Oh, the 70’s and early 80’s with him were good times! He’d use these blocks and make all the crazy buildings for us to be in his stories. I gotta say the kid’s imagination was pretty damn fertile. Oh, he had friends, but they just weren’t into it like him. He was like the Lance Armstrong of action figures. And of science fiction. At first, when he began writing in the eighth grade, we didn’t mind. He still made time for us. And we knew that when he was holding us in his sweaty little hands and he got that far off look in his eye, he’d come back to burying us in the back yard or - god forbid! – blowing us up with firecrackers. But it was worth it for a part in one of those stories. We loved him for it. He kept us around even when we were minus a leg or two - or even a head. In that mind of his, he found a use for all of us. Then he discovered girls. October, 1986. It was like the end of the world. One day we’re standing in the middle of this building block creation he’d pretended was some marble city on a planet near Alpha Centauri and the next we were stuck in a box in the closet. Not even a “See ya later!” Nope, it was into the closet, then we heard some high-pitched girly-giggles then silence. We didn’t see him for years. We got word about him once in a while. Heard he took up writing, but it was crap like “The Breakfast Club” only with better music. We couldn’t believe it. Not Charlie. What happened to those aliens with heads he’d sculpted out of wax? Spaceships? Those complex plots? All gone. For what? You guessed it: Girls. Emotions. “Serious fiction.” I tell you, it was like hearing Elvis had left the building. During our two decade exile in the closet, we heard other things about him. He went to college. He wrote a lot, but not much he really liked. We knew it even then. It was like he didn’t dare write science fiction. Some of us had lost hope and just lay there. Others kept vigil, hoping for a day we didn’t dare speak about. Then we heard he’d stopped writing in 1996. Did he come to reclaim us? No. He took up music for ten years or so. He took up yoga. Once in a while, he’d visit us in the closet. But it was half-hearted. His mind was elsewhere. Then one day, he really did come back for us. One second we’re in the dark and the next thing we know we’re in a car headed for Massachusetts. Suddenly we got a whole shelf to ourselves out in broad daylight! Then he bought a bunch of others form some planet called Ebay. He’d just sit and stare at us with that old look. But why were we suddenly back in the picture? He had a wife now, who didn’t mind that he played with us. So what had happened? Turns out he’d never forgotten about those stories. He’d been thinking about all of us and the stories he’d made up and then remembered he’d been a writer once. From the shelf we could see him typing away. Before long he’s got a whole novel together! Then he’s working on another one. Word is there are two more in the planning stages! Some short stories, too! It’s good to see him using his imagination again. Its good to know he never abandoned us. He returned to his true love of science fiction. We hear the stories are pretty good. Someday we’ll get one of the cats to score us a copy of the manuscript. Man, it’s good to be out of the damn closet! --- I'm smarter than you I'm harder than you I'm better than you I'm just raw I'm hotter than you More popular than you More clever than you And goshdarn it, people like me I'm smarter than you I'm harder than you I'm better than you I'm just raw I'm hotter than you More popular than you More clever than you And goshdarn it, people like me
    Ch-Chang

    Congratulations!

    I will dutifully let the wife know she’s still in the club. I knew there was a reason I was giving extra special iTunes support to her today.

  22. 1) Awesomesauce, John. Huzzah for fourteen years!

    2) I’m seconding DG Lewis @ 20’s appreciation for the depth of field. For a brief second, it appeared in my mind like Ghlaghghee was actually at the wedding and that the photographer took a very low angle shot of you two with her in the foreground.

  23. O Great Scalzi, what a superb picture of Her Most Glorious Shimmering Radiant Perfection, the Beauteous Ghlaghghee.

    Criminally long overdue, naturally. But considering the poor raw material She has to work with, the Executive Committee of The Official Ghlaghghee Fan Club stands in awe of the degree of improvement Magnificent She has made in you.

    While an excellent picture there are of course some suggestions the Executive Committee would like to offer:

    1. Unbearably Perfect She should be more centered in the frame.
    2. Her Radiance has caused your camera to shorten the exposure a bit too much and the image is too dark. You need to compensate for this.
    3. In a strange turn of events, depth of field is actually excessive. This leads to irrelevant distractions appearing incorrectly in focus. More specifically, there appears to be an image of a pervert pawing or in other ways molesting one of Her Angelic Minions just above Her. You could have avoided this by correct centering.

    The Official Ghlaghghee Fan Club

  24. Happy Anniversary!

    J and I are coming up on our 8th later this summer.

    I’m at work right now but as soon as I get home J will get kisses and all three cats will be snuggled.

    PS. We’re headed to California tomorrow. I’ll give In ‘N Out your love.

  25. Congratulations!!! My husband and I are working through year 32 (a pretty good one so far). Fluffy and Twilight thank you for thinking of them.

  26. Congrats, John and Krissy!

    David A.W. @28: I read that poem to my wife at our wedding. It is my favorite cummings poem, and I agree: Best. Love. Poem. Ever.

    Reading it again gave me chills. In a good way.

    If you haven’t heard it, Michael Hedges set this poem to music on his album Taproot. I don’t usually go for New Age-y music – and though he was an incredibly gifted and inventive guitarist, Hedges did tend to record for that genre – but damn if it’s not one of the most beautiful love songs ever.

  27. > If you are married (or would be save for those annoying legal niceties), be sure to give your spouse an extra kiss and let him or her know you love them.

    We did, actually — yesterday was our 9th anniversary. :) So… one day ahead. And five years behind. Or something.

    All the best, you guys.

  28. carolelaine – Los Angeles – "There’s only one rule that I know of, babies: Goddamn it, you’ve got to be kind." - Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.
    Carol Elaine

    Happy anniversary, John and Krissy!

  29. Congrats, John. Tomorrow is the first wedding anniversary for me and Nita.

    Now quit stealing my blog posts within a week of them posting. =)

  30. my dear doggy is salivating at the sight of the cat – down boy…
    14 years is almost a lifetime – one that me and my hubby have also just celebrated in January.

  31. Congrats Mr and Mrs Scalzi! My Better Half (who really is) and I will be celebrating out 14th anniversary come August, and I’m pleasantly surprised we’ve resisted the temptation to throttle each other.

  32. I’ve been married now for (checks watch) 11 days so I’m still at the say-I-Love-You-reflexively stage of things and we have three cats (I brought two to the picture, she brought one) which require constant petting and fussing over, so I think I’m doing pretty well here.

  33. Kelly Naylor – I read. A lot. And I write, and do art, and sing (but don't dance), and contemplate the great questions of the ages.
    Kelly

    Congratulations! I kissed the cat and gave the husband a nice pat on the head… wait. What? Damn. I did it wrong AGAIN?

    Sigh.

  34. Happy Anniversary! My spouse and I celebrated our 19th yesterday but I will hasten to smother him with more appreciation and affection as my gift to you. Had to move the cat off my laptop but will make it up to her.

  35. George E. Mitchell – Seabeck, WA – I've been working in the software industry since 1991. Over that time, I've learned a lot about technical people and had a good deal of success working with them and managing them. LinkedIn: <a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/georgmi">http://www.linkedin.com/in/georgmi</a>
    georgmi

    Yeah, I can just see that:

    Me: (Kisses wife) “That’s from Scalzi.”

    She: (suspiciously) “Why were you kissing Scalzi?”

  36. Congratulations! Will be nine years for me and my wife in September. As they said in “The Untouchables,” it’s good being married.

  37. Congrats to you both! We just celebrated our 2nd anniversary at the end of March. Looking forward to many years yet to come with her and our cats.

  38. Happy Anniversary!!!

    This was a beautiful bright spot in my hard day. I will certainly kiss the hubby when I get home.

  39. Happy Anniversay!

    Many years of health and happiness.

    Looks like your wedding photo was taken somewhere like the WONDER SPOT or gravity vortex of the Wisconsin Dells. I never went there, but remember looking at the brochures or ads. That or hurricane force winds with damn good hairspray?

  40. Congrats and happy anniversary! (we’re coming up on 21 years this October) … this is also our oldest son’s 19th birthday, so a great day in many ways :)

  41. cartophilus – melbourne, australia – 48, businessman, traveller, semi- luddite, happily partnered up for 17 years, no children by choice, somewhat right wing, anti war but not soldiers, anti religions but not faith, pro cats, scifi, aaron sorkin, and interesting people. ( also really good wine!)
    jeff

    Congratulations to you both, (but especially to Krissy for being able to live with a writer.)

    I’ve been happily not married to the same woman for the lst 15 years and I have to say it’s a lot more fun than being young and single.
    -and a lot less wear and tear on the liver.

  42. I was going to say that I kissed my husband while petting my cat equivalent, and then I realized that sounded really inappropriate. (Even though I meant it COMPLETELY INNOCENTLY, I swear.) So I’ll just say happy anniversary instead. Happy anniversary!

  43. Happy Anniversary. (And I must say, that after following the unspellable cat’s Twitter feed, that I find his sense of humor to be suspiciously like yours, John.)

  44. Congrats, John! Great timing–14 years ago next week, I proposed to my other half (the night before, or was it after, my brother’s wedding). We started dating 14.5 years ago. And…

    or would be save for those annoying legal niceties

    …tomorrow, we’re going to Connecticut for cake tasting, to meet a florist, etc. On our 15th anniversary (!!!) this fall, we’re getting legally married. Amazing to finally be able to make good on that proposal. Yay, Connecticut! :-)

    So, um, yeah…love your post and the responses. I will kiss him in the morning for you and Krissy (he’s asleep now, or should be).

    P.S. I love your wedding shrine. :-)

  45. J: Er, 14, eh!? Can’t believe we made it . . .
    K: 14? Have you stopped taking your meds again?
    J: Er, meds?
    K: The little blue pills that help you . . . think.
    J: I only like the red pills.
    K. But you’re polar dyslexic—
    J: Huh?
    K: Take the blue pills are you’ll . . . see. We’ve been married for 41 years. You’ve won nineteen Hugos for heaven’s sake. You only had ONE on our fourteenth.
    J: Ninety-one Hugos!? But how? I’m only 40 . . .
    K: Just take your meds.

  46. Congratulations! That’s not easy, in this culture.

    (Spice & I just finished our 36th year together, the last 11 of which we’ve been married. It doesn’t seem nearly that long.)

  47. Tinker53 – Hill Country, Edwards Plateau, Williamson County, TX – Mission High School, Mission, TX 1971 Pan American University-UT PanAm, BBA-CIS, 1980
    Tinker

    Been married 25 years to the same woman, and thirteen to another, to learn how not to do it. (Appprenticeship? Slavery? indentured servitude? I don’t know, but I was glad when it was over.)

    A man’s 22nd anniversary arrived suddenly and without notice, as men’s anniversaries so often do, and he bought his wife 20 roses by way of celebration. His wife was both pleased and puzzled, “why 20, and not 22?”, she asked. He quickly replied, “oh, I was counting only the HAPPY years!” His wife smiled a bit distractedly, then promptly disposed of 13 of the roses, placed the remaining seven in a vase.

    Remember, never explain your reasoning. If she agrees with it, it may be more embarrassing than otherwise, and if she disagrees, it may incite violence.

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