17 Years

Seventeen years ago today, Krissy and I got married. I love that we are still married, and I love that I love her more today than when I married her. And I love that she feels the same way.

If you want to give us an anniversary present, here’s all you have to do: Tell the person you love and who loves you how much, in fact, you love them. It’s always a good thing to let them know that, and to remind them of how happy you are that you share each other’s lives. At the very least, it’s worked for us, for seventeen years (and counting).

68 Comments on “17 Years”

  1. Congratulations Krissy and John! Here’s to 17 more, at least!

    Coincidentally, today is also my birthday. It was a bit more than 17 years ago, though. A bit. XD

  2. Happy Anniversary. My husband and I will be celebrating our 18th anniversary in September so we’ve been married just a bit longer than you. It took us a long time to decide each other was the right one but like you, I love him more than I did when we got married. And we do tell each other “Love You” every morning when he drops me off at work and every night before we go to sleep.

  3. Hubby and I just celebrated seven years, back in March. As it turns out, we hung out with the same crowd in college. He remembers me from back then, but I don’t remember him (I got my BA in ’95, so about the same time you and Krissy got married). Match.com hooked us up in late ’03, and we got married in ’05, when we were in our thirties. I like to tease him about why he never indicated interest towards me back in our college days. He tells me “I wouldn’t have been ready, back then.” I’m glad we finally reconnected, and I haven’t regretted a moment since. I hope you and Krissy have many more happy years ahead of you.


  4. Congratulations! We just passed 40 years and I have figured that the most important part of a marriage is having the same sense of humor and not taking yourself too seriously. If I’m right (and I think I am!) then you and Krissie have an ever greater world of fun ahead of you!! Have a happy!

  5. Tolerent wives indeed. I’m always saying, “I know, I am a big goof” She says, ” Yes, but you’re MY goof”
    32 years in August for us and she still laughs when I make bad puns. Priceless, that.
    Congrats to both of you.

  6. Congratulations… we are right behind you at 14 years and I have nothing but gratitude for the man who I am tolerant of, and who tolerates me. I’m also grateful to have found the man who supports my dreams and works with me to make them come true.

    It’s good to have a partner in all things.

  7. Julie – I'm a writer and photographer. I always have something with me to take notes for ideas or writing projects I'm thinking about or have on the go. I also like to go around with my camera and take pictures of anything that strikes me as beautiful or evocative. I'm perpetually working on one story or another, while waiting for enough distance to judge the last one (or more). I'm always working on several projects at once, developing the next book, even as I'm editing the last. Beyond that, there's always plenty of scraps and twists of ideas rolling around in my head, eventually turning themselves into full blown stories.

    Congratulations. That’s fabulous. Have a spectacular every-single-day-together. :)

  8. crowfae – warrior, barista, bookstore associate, every kind of restaurant worker, secretary, drove a forklift in a grocery warehouse, andmy last job was as a Nurse for MGA helping to transition babies on ventilators from the NICU to home. It was my bliss. I am a breast cancer survivor. I live with serious MDD and PTSD. I am a Navy Veteran and an Army Veteran, first woman in my field for both. I belong to the VFW and have a 100% service connected disability which has exacerbated over the last 5 years to the point I live at Thunderbird senior living, need a Service Dog to maximize independence, misplace words and faces and require my own Home Health Visits. It also means walking, typing, communicating and memory and I are not quite the friends we used to be.Although completely fictional, I take the ingredients of my own experiences and those of other people and blend them into my Novel 'The Clouds in my Head." I was always told my head was in the clouds, so I guess that's how they got inside. LolMy genre is what I like to call Silver Lit, you know like Chick Lit for the Social Security set. Like Chick Lit the main focus is on personal growth and relationships between people. There is romance, laughter and tragedy and hopefully enough reasons to read to the end as Magna, my protagonist faces changes in herself and the world around her. Oh, did I mention she also has a service dog who is a perfect co-star. Starting Nano this year felt like the first time I jumped from a plane, I hadn't written creatively since 2017. When my legal pads and black pens didn't work anymore and my sentences struggled to make sense, I said I couldn't write anymore. But silencing myself was not the right answer. As a tool to combat depression, I took a deep breath and dove in. I used Word dictation and it's editing tool to write this year. Sometimes when I went back I didn't know what I had originally said and would have to piece it all together again. All the things Id joke about before I depended on for this year's novel. Detailed notes on each character, mini biographies. Timelines, though I made it easier on myself by containing my novel to Nov 1 to Nov. 15 2020 as the stories time frame. The election figures into the story.I am an official Plantster. I set up the framework and then let the characters speak for themselves. Hoping to post a link to it's Kindle version by this time next year.
    Jo Crowfae

    ahhhh. you are so sweet!

  9. Congratulations! May you have many more happy, healthy and fun-filled years together!

    And I just sent a message to my husband telling him how much I love him too. :)

  10. Before I read this, I had already told Paul this morning that I love him super huge oogie bunches. So, there you go. Happy anniversary!

  11. Contratulations, you two lovebirds. We celebrated our 14th legal anniversary about a month ago; we’ve been together for 38 years. I’ve seen the look on Krissy’s face so many times on Marti’s. We are indeed loved.

  12. Congratulations! And Happy Father’s Day! I hope you’re having a great one today, and I love, love, LOVE that photo! :)

  13. When it’s good, it just gets better. Congrats and here’s wishing you many more.

  14. What a great idea for an anniversary gift. I just told my wife of 30 years that I had to give her a kiss because it was a gift to this science fiction guy I know. She just smiled and said, “Sure”. Ya got a love them….

  15. pppfffffffffffffffffffftttttttttttttttttttt – newlyweds! we just celebrated our 38th on Friday. We are very lucky as it is better now that it has ever been & it was never bad. Congrats to you & the woman foolish enough to marry you!

  16. Congratulations. You guys are adorable. We’ll be having our 32nd this December. I wish you every happiness!

  17. . . . dude. I have a photo from my wedding that almost exactly replicates that pose. My husband looming over me, with his hands like that, trying to eat my brains, and me giving him more or less that same look.

    Congratulations to you two, and I hope you’re as happy together as my husband and I are!

  18. changterhune – Before you hear lies from Chang Terhune himself, we thought we’d tell you the truth: without us, his old action figures, he’d be nowhere. He loved science fiction from way back and began reading it at an early age, but it was through us that he acted it all out. That’s what led to the writing. He watched a lot of science fiction shows like Star Trek, U.F.O, and movies, too. But we were always there to do his bidding. And it’s like they say: you always forget about the little people on your way up. Oh, the 70’s and early 80’s with him were good times! He’d use these blocks and make all the crazy buildings for us to be in his stories. I gotta say the kid’s imagination was pretty damn fertile. Oh, he had friends, but they just weren’t into it like him. He was like the Lance Armstrong of action figures. And of science fiction. At first, when he began writing in the eighth grade, we didn’t mind. He still made time for us. And we knew that when he was holding us in his sweaty little hands and he got that far off look in his eye, he’d come back to burying us in the back yard or - god forbid! – blowing us up with firecrackers. But it was worth it for a part in one of those stories. We loved him for it. He kept us around even when we were minus a leg or two - or even a head. In that mind of his, he found a use for all of us. Then he discovered girls. October, 1986. It was like the end of the world. One day we’re standing in the middle of this building block creation he’d pretended was some marble city on a planet near Alpha Centauri and the next we were stuck in a box in the closet. Not even a “See ya later!” Nope, it was into the closet, then we heard some high-pitched girly-giggles then silence. We didn’t see him for years. We got word about him once in a while. Heard he took up writing, but it was crap like “The Breakfast Club” only with better music. We couldn’t believe it. Not Charlie. What happened to those aliens with heads he’d sculpted out of wax? Spaceships? Those complex plots? All gone. For what? You guessed it: Girls. Emotions. “Serious fiction.” I tell you, it was like hearing Elvis had left the building. During our two decade exile in the closet, we heard other things about him. He went to college. He wrote a lot, but not much he really liked. We knew it even then. It was like he didn’t dare write science fiction. Some of us had lost hope and just lay there. Others kept vigil, hoping for a day we didn’t dare speak about. Then we heard he’d stopped writing in 1996. Did he come to reclaim us? No. He took up music for ten years or so. He took up yoga. Once in a while, he’d visit us in the closet. But it was half-hearted. His mind was elsewhere. Then one day, he really did come back for us. One second we’re in the dark and the next thing we know we’re in a car headed for Massachusetts. Suddenly we got a whole shelf to ourselves out in broad daylight! Then he bought a bunch of others form some planet called Ebay. He’d just sit and stare at us with that old look. But why were we suddenly back in the picture? He had a wife now, who didn’t mind that he played with us. So what had happened? Turns out he’d never forgotten about those stories. He’d been thinking about all of us and the stories he’d made up and then remembered he’d been a writer once. From the shelf we could see him typing away. Before long he’s got a whole novel together! Then he’s working on another one. Word is there are two more in the planning stages! Some short stories, too! It’s good to see him using his imagination again. Its good to know he never abandoned us. He returned to his true love of science fiction. We hear the stories are pretty good. Someday we’ll get one of the cats to score us a copy of the manuscript. Man, it’s good to be out of the damn closet! --- I'm smarter than you I'm harder than you I'm better than you I'm just raw I'm hotter than you More popular than you More clever than you And goshdarn it, people like me I'm smarter than you I'm harder than you I'm better than you I'm just raw I'm hotter than you More popular than you More clever than you And goshdarn it, people like me

    Dude! Congrozzles! We’re at almost 18 I think but we’ve been together nearly 20. It’s a good thing! Mazel Tov!

  19. Donna Leonard – Southern California – I like to write, read, knit, crochet, watch movies, watch way too much television, listen to music and play Drawsomething 2 somewhat obsessively, not necessarily in that order. You can find my irregular blog at: http://manicmeanderings.blogspot.com/ 3 kids: Twenty-three-year-old boy/girl twins, and a thirteen-year-old girl. 3 cats: fourteen-year-old female, three-year-old female, and a two-year-old male
    Donna Leonard

    Happy Anniversary! Okay, I will be sure to remind my husband how much I still love him…and tolerate him. He tolerates me too, which I think is one of the secrets to a lasting marriage.

  20. Awwww…. how sweet! I love what you asked for as an anniversary present too: most authors who ask for a gift seem to say ‘buy me a present: buy my book!’ You’ve effectively asked for world peace. :)

    I’ve been married for 21 years next month to Dark Matter’s minion. He’s loving and giving. He works: I’m disabled and unemployed and extremely overqualified for any job I’m likely to be offered as a disabled person, so he works, supports me financially and encourages me in continuing with Dark Matter even though I keep questioning whether I’m actually contributing something to the community or am I actually duplicating other people’s efforts. He’s called the ‘minion’, a title he likes: this started when I was doing 95% (at least) of Dark Matter, we’d go to events and he’d fetch me coffee and carry the extra bag and just tag along, interested in what I was doing and who I was meeting, keeping me safe from accidents and pointing out people we know or good photo opportunities (it’s bizarre: I’m vision impaired and I do the photography for Dark Matter :) He’s a highly respected IT consultant at work, but he’s happy to be the minion for Dark Matter. He’s always proof read Dark Matter too – proofreading being one of the most boring jobs on the face of this earth in my opinion – and if there are errors in DMF, it’s because I haven’t given him enough time to proof read as carefully as he wants. About a year ago he promised me a website as well, even though he’s a database developer by profession and has never touched anything webby in his life other than a search engine; when web design is required at work he works with web design specialists. With all the crap life threw at us last year it took a while, but about 7 weeks ago we launched the website. We’ve had lots of feedback as to why it needs to be changed (he didn’t realise WordPress did pages as well as blogs, plus WP has grown past a lot of the negative feedback he found when he researched websites) and now he’s going to rebuild the site using only WordPress so we get rid of the dual scroll bars and generally improve the layout/prevent orphaning of pages etc. He’s the wind beneath my wings, leader of my cheer squad (which is very very small), my chauffeur (I can’t drive due to my disability), my support at events, Dark Matter’s webmaster (until he’s rebuilt the site then he promises to train me so I can take over), my IT support, etcetera, all while holding down a full-time job and looking for another job because he’s a contractor with a contract end in sight.

  21. To paraphrase one of the great poets and bards of our modern world: “Since you like it, bet you’re glad you put a ring on it. Since you like it, bet you’re glad you put a ring on it.”

    My wife and I are only at thirteen years, but we’ve been together for seventeen. Mazal tov.

  22. Congrats! I will indeed go off and hug my spouse of 20 months! (At this point the numbers sound more impressive if you count months.)

  23. Happy anniversary!

    John, since I met you at the Cleveland Blogger Bash in 2k-something, I got married to a long-time friend. I’d never been married before and had no idea marriage would be so fun and sweet!! I’m looking forward to our 17th in, like, 9 more years.

    Congrats to you!

  24. Happy anniversary! And happy Father’s Day. I suspect Tolerant Daughter is also Tolerant.
    (I just bellowed at my husband, “John Scalzi says to tell you I love you!” and he answered, “Tell John Scalzi that I love you, too. You, I mean, not him. Not that I don’t love Scalzi, but I don’t love him like that.”)

  25. Burns! – LA. Not Louisiana. Los Angeles. – More fun than anyone I know. Probably more than anyone you know, too.

    Holy cow! 17 years! We should all be so lucky as to find the one we love even more, 17 years on. Congratulations!

    I was at that (fantastic) wedding, and it sure doesn’t seem like it was 17 years ago. Time flies… Happy anniversary to you both.

  26. At first glance this looked like a big idea for a particularly bad zombie novel. But really, be happy!

  27. Dave and I will be celebrating our 10th next month, although we’ve been together 19 years, and yes, TOLERANT HUSBAND IS TOLERANT. Hmmm. Nice picture!!! (Hee Hee)

  28. She’s a lucky gal. Lucky to have that much patience! >;-)

    Seriously, congratulations to both of you.

  29. Congratulations! My oldest son and his wife just celebrated 19 years and she posted that she hoped for 119 more together so I feel you are both doing something very right. Hope it was a grand day.

  30. I met my wife a week before I went off to the Southeast Asian unpleasantness in 1967. Proposed a week getting back in one piece because i was being stationed across the country and pre-Web, cheap air, cell phones, and other such ways to relate from long distance effectively we figured we were unlikely to get to know each other any better. A genuine Leap of Faith. 43 years later she still takes my breath away. And tolerance? She puts up with soooooo much..

  31. It was nice of you at Krissy to get married on my wedding anniversary, and very tricky of you to do it 3 years before I did. Clever!

  32. Congrats to both you, and the kid and assorted fluffy friends you’ve garnered along your journey. May you have a long and variegated way before you.

  33. Happy anniversary (ok, a bit late, but I was computerless for a while)!
    In your honor I gave my wonderful hubby a hug and told him that I loved him and was glad that we were married. I take it as a good thing that he hugged me back and said something similar rather than looking at me and yelling, “Who are you and what have you done with my wife?!”

  34. 1. Happy anniversary!
    2. That picture just *BEGS* for shooping. I’d go with an Angel/Devil scheme, but even just a simple slice of bacon taped to your jacket would be worthwhile.

  35. Not having a boyfriend or anything like that, I chose to tell my family and friends how much they mean to me. That might not be exactly what you had in mind, but it’s my version of it.

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