The Big Idea: T.J. Berry

Forgiveness: A complicated topic in any piece of literature, and one that doesn’t necessarily come up that often in science fiction. But it’s in T.J. Berry’s new novel Space Unicorn Blues, and the author is here today to explain why it’s integral to what goes down in the book.

T.J. BERRY:

I believe in second chances. That’s a hard thing to say, because I also believe we have the right to walk away from people who harm us and never look back. Reconciling those two positions is one of the big ideas at the heart of Space Unicorn Blues, and it’s the one that has the most resonance for me.

In the opening of the story, part-unicorn Gary Cobalt is reunited with the starship captain who kidnapped, tortured, and framed him for murder. A decade has gone by since his imprisonment at Jenny Perata’s hands, but he must now decide if he’s willing to give her another chance. Gary wrestles with how to cooperate with a woman he has never trusted. At the same time, Jenny struggles with how to make amends for the horrific things she’s done during a time of war. Gary eventually decides to join her crew, but that moment is only the beginning of their undertaking. Jenny and Gary continue to navigate the turbulent waters of re-forging a civil relationship throughout the book.

I don’t have a template for making amends—it’s a messy, nonlinear process—but I wanted this to be a key idea in the story. Making amends is often an ongoing work-in-progress, not a single apology or act of contrition. It contains elements of restitution, restorative justice, and trust building. It’s more complex than simply handing over cash or serving a prison sentence. Some amends may need to last a lifetime. How do you capture such a nebulous process in a 100,000-word book?

I started by rejecting the “instant forgiveness” narrative. In fact, I really dislike the word “forgiveness.” For me, it focuses on the survivor’s willingness to let go of the past instead of the abusive person undoing the harm they have caused. The burden of action is on the wrong side of the equation. Gary never offers Jenny forgiveness for her actions because she has not yet repaired the damage she has done. How could she possibly make up for a lost decade in prison? For treating Gary’s body like a seam of coal to be mined or a pocket of natural gas to be tapped? Figuring out how to atone for treating Gary as less-than-human is one of Jenny’s main conflicts throughout the book.

There are a lot of apologies in the news lately. Abusers are producing a neatly packaged mea culpas that deftly walk the line between acknowledging their harmful actions while at the same time minimizing them. Most of these apologies, frankly, are garbage. They focus on the perpetrator and their toils, both before and after the abuse. But nearly none of them touch on making amends to the people who were hurt. Sometimes, these “apologies” bypass remorse altogether and slide straight into self-forgiveness .

This is the kind of non-apology I tried to avoid in this book. Jenny admits what she’s done, apologizes for it, and makes clear she’s searching for ways to make up for the harm she’s caused. Gary acknowledges her efforts, but doesn’t ever absolve her of culpability. She doesn’t get an easy forgiveness checklist. At one point she says she doesn’t know how to to make amends, and he kicks the conversation right back to her with, “I hope you figure it out.” Gary’s not here to the do labor on her behalf. Jenny, like all abusers, has to do the work for herself.

Like most of us, I’ve been hurt by people in my life. People I cared for have caused tangible and lasting negative effects due to their carelessness or malice. Sometimes, I’ve cut those people out of my life. Other times, the solution is not so clear. What does it look like when there’s more good to a relationship than bad, but the wrongs still have to be addressed? Where is the template for when we want to rebuild that connection instead of discarding it? We don’t see that narrative depicted as often in books, television, and films.

Indulge me for a moment—because I’m quite fond of the Marvel Cinematic Universe—and think of the second Guardians of the Galaxy movie in which Peter Quill learns that his kidnapping by abusive gang leader Yondu was actually a rescue from his even more abusive godlike biological father. Yondu’s appalling treatment of young Peter Quill is instantly forgiven and his storyline gets one of the more poignant endings in the MCU. (I’ll admit, I cried.) But this means never see the nuance of Peter and Yondu walking the thorny path of making amends and rebuilding trust.

This is where I pick up Jenny and Gary’s relationship in Space Unicorn Blues. Gary feels there’s something to be salvaged between them and he’s willing to offer Jenny the chance to do better. Throughout the book, we get to watch Jenny make choices that prove her commitment to lasting change. And when she makes a choice that saves millions of lives while tearing her own family apart, Gary is ready to admit that she’s on the right path.

Just because making amends is the right thing to do, doesn’t mean it’s easy. Not all of us can apologize by writing our wives a single on our platinum-selling album, but every one of us can make changes to become a better person and repair the damage we’ve caused. I don’t offer any tidy solutions in Space Unicorn Blues, but I hope readers are willing to come along with me on this tough and complex journey.

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8 thoughts on “The Big Idea: T.J. Berry

  1. Intriguing idea and it sounds well explored. Very good point about GotG2 (and I cried, too). And what on earth does a part-unicorn look like?! – what is is ‘part’ with?

  2. This sounds like a very good book which I will have absolutely no desire to read. It is indeed a Big Idea, and I hope it sells well because I know there are people who are not me who will be helped by reading it. For me it would only be a painful reminder of the person who I gave chance after chance and who never did even recognize that they were doing something wrong.

  3. Lee, spot on observation. The abusive character in this big idea is working to make genuine amends. And that sounds like the author created a fantasy scenario in the novel to address a real life experience. Real life abusers are not aware that what they do is destructive, and if they apologize, even say they will change, it never happens. I agree with the author’s advice to just cut these people out of your life. I’d be interested in the author’s thoughts on this.

  4. [Deleted because, Greg, I need you to think about the fact that so much of what you write here just comes across as fucking hostile and lecture-y. You can start by thinking about how much less fucking hostile and lecture-y you might come across if instead of essentially starting with “here’s where you’re wrong” you begin with “I think of this differently, here’s how.” Give it a shot, and see if you can’t practice it more often — JS]

  5. I’m intrigued by this but slightly worried.

    The author does rather give the impression that a “survivor’s willingness to let go of the past” is both irrelevant and unhelpful: that naughty malefactor really needs to learn their lesson and how dare the victim just walk away and leave them to it?

    I’m all for making sure that the malefactor is punished and somehow makes amends, but I’m not at all sure that this should come at the expense of the victim’s self-determination. Should they not be allowed to say “I’m out” and walk away, leaving the punishment and amend-making to someone else?

    Just recently I was reading an article about women here in the UK being prosecuted for “falsely calling rape” in which several of these victims had been pressured into participating in the prosecution of their perpetrators and then blamed when the proceedings fell apart (sometimes because they were too scared to testify, sometimes because there simply wasn’t enough evidence) so I might be feeling a little over-sensitive about victim-blaming right now.

    It is entirely possible that I have misunderstood and am overreacting: I would love to be reassured.

  6. “Not forgiving is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” –various

    https://quoteinvestigator.com/2017/08/19/resentment/

    “When we don’t work on forgiveness, we become emotionally anchored to the pain. Forgiveness frees us and prevents the betrayal from lingering on and affecting not only our past but also our present and future too”

    https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/03/forgiving-someone-who-is-not-sorry-is-one-of-the-hardest-things-to-do/

  7. A less-than-sincere apology may lead to a raging desire for adverse consequences – and plenty of them! – to be visited upon the offending slimeball. Uninvolved bystanders start to weigh in. Dogpiling ensues. Chances for genuine reconciliation diminish. The seeking of judicial remedies can be seen, in a certain light, as ultimate failure to sort things out like grownups.

    I guess the sticking point is whether forgiveness is appropriate if restitution may never occur. And whether the right thing to do is to walk away and never look back. My feeling is that it’s *always* up to the wronged person to decide for him- or herself where to draw the line.

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